Love is your birthright. You do not have to do ANYTHING to earn love. You are deserving of love because you exist.
Love is a birthright. Love was given to you from birth. Everything about you matters. Your needs, thoughts, and even ideas. There is no one on this earth that is better than, more worthy, and/or deserving of love than you. You do not have to hustle to prove your value. If you are surrounded by people who make you feel like you must earn their love and affection, understand their “need” for you to earn love is rooted deeply in their lack of love for themselves. I promise it has nothing to do with you. Even if they appear confident.
What a person judges says more about themselves than the person they are judging.
Think about this: when another woman walks in a room and you pass judgment on her, can you agree it's a reflection of a judgment you have about yourself? An example of this is a judgment about someone's weight. If you feel self-conscious or insecure about your weight, it's highly possible you will have thoughts or feelings about the other person's weight. You may think she’s “too skinny”, “too fat” or “shaped funny”. Some judgments may not be negative towards the other person but towards you. Such as I wish my body looked like that" or start thinking about your own insecurities "I need to lose weight", or "I wish my stomach was flatter or my butt bigger". These examples show how insecurities can produce a judgment. These thoughts are considered judgments because it’s based on how you think a person “should” look. Often times we choose the latter and choose to compare ourselves and put ourselves down because we feel it makes us humble or “nice”. The question I ask is, nice to whom?
You certainly aren’t being nice to yourself. In fact, you are only continuing the cycle of neglecting yourself, repeating the behaviors of others in your past.
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