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Surrender is the Pathway to Happiness

Attempting to control life and it’s circumstances leads to anxiety, stress & overwhelm.

Trying to maintain control in life is like trying to maintain control on a roller coaster. The ride is going to go its own way, regardless of how tightly you grip the bar. There is a thrill and a power in surrendering to the ride and allowing yourself to fully feel the ups and downs of it, letting the curves take you rather than fighting them. When you fight the ride and resist what’s happening, your whole being becomes tense and anxiety sets in. When you courageously go with the ride, accepting what you cannot control, happiness and Joy is your reward.

It is not always easy to let go, even of the things we know we can’t control. Most of us feel a great deal of discomfort with this life most of the time. Often caused by not having control over what happens. Our attempts to control what can’t be controlled creates unnecessary burdens. We can relieve ourselves of this burden by making surrender a daily practice. At the end of our daily prayer, meditation, or spiritual practice we might say , “I surrender.” This simple mantra can be repeated as necessary throughout the day, when we find ourselves metaphorically gripping the safety bar.

We can give in to our fear and anxiety, or we can surrender to the great mystery of life with courage.

When we see people on a roller coaster, we see that there are those with their faces tight with fear and then there are those that smile broadly, with their hands in the air, carried through the ride on a wave of joy and happiness. This powerful image reminds us that often the only control we have is choosing how we are going to respond to the ride.

If you have been caught attempting to control the ups and downs of life only to be left stressed, angry and frustrated. I invite you to let go today and surrender.


Kamesha Tarell

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