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It’s time to evaluate our relationships

When I think of spring I think of change and growth. It’s the time of year when the flowers begin to bloom, and we feel compelled to clean up our environments. The sun and freshness of the air lends to the desire to spring clean. In this first week of Spring 2023, I’d like to encourage you to spring clean your relationships.

There comes a time in all our lives when we may need to evaluate our relationships, making sure they are having a positive effect on us and helping us grow, rather than draining our energy and dragging us down.

Without realizing it, we may be spending precious time and energy engaging in friendships that make us feel unworthy and let us down, rather than cultivating ones that support and nourish us. Life is difficult enough without us entertaining people in our inner circle who drain our energy.

We can do so much more in this world when we are surrounded by people who understand what we're trying to do and who positively support us.

We can begin this evaluation process by simply noticing how we feel in the presence of each of our close relationships. We may begin to see that an old friend is still carrying negative attitudes or ideas that we ourselves need to let go of in order to move forward. Or we may find that we have a long-term relationship with someone who has a habit of betraying, disappointing, or not showing up for us when we need support. There are many ways to go about changing the dynamics in situations like this. Having an open, honest conversation with our friend about how we experience them is one. Another is to limit the amount of time you spend with these individuals. This process isn't so much about abandoning old friends as it is about shifting our relationships so that they support us on our journey rather than holding us back.

Another important part of this process is looking at ourselves and noticing what kind of friend we are to the people in our lives. I don’t mean blaming ourselves for their behavior because everyone is only responsible for themselves but as an opportunity to evaluate with the goal of setting an example of how you would like to be treated within the relationship.

We might find that as we adjust our own approach to a relationship, challenging ourselves to be more supportive and positive, our friends make adjustments as well and the whole world benefits.

I love you; I love you; I love you!

Sent with Unconditional Love,

Kamesha Tarell

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