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How to break free from the cycle of bitterness and hatred

"Let us not seek to satisfy our thirst for freedom by drinking from the cup of bitterness and hatred"

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

When we feel we have been wronged it can become very tempting to feel hate and bitterness. As Dr. King has reminded us in another quote, “darkness can not drive out darkness only light can do that and hate can not drive out hate only love can do that”. When we allow our hearts and minds to become filled with hatred and bitterness for anyone who has offended us we are operating in the same spirit and energy as our oppressor. This often only leads feelings of justification in their actions, causing a resolution to be almost impossible.

The "cup of bitterness and hatred" refers to the negative emotions and actions that can arise when we seek to retaliate against those who have wronged us. While such actions may be understandable, they ultimately lead to further division and suffering. When we give in to negative emotions and engage in harmful behavior, we ultimately harm ourselves and those around us. Negative emotions not only harm our bodies but peace of mind. True freedom can only be achieved through understanding, forgiveness, respecting and accepting the diversity of humanity. It may be challenging to empathize or be compassionate for those who may hold hurt you and have different perspectives and experiences, but I encourage you to resist the urge.

It is crucial to remember,

If you don’t fill your cup with anger and bitterness, You can’t drink from it.

On this day set aside to remember such a remarkable man who accomplished so much in the non-violent fight for freedom. Take some time to think about those you need to forgive, accept and attempt to understand. Then, choose to free yourself!


Love, Kamesha Tarell

If you have a difficult relationship in your life that is consuming you with bitterness and anger. If reconciliation and peace feel impossible, please contact me for a free consultation at You deserve freedom. Dr. King didn’t just fight for our bodies to be free but our minds too.

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