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Healing Feelings of Abandonment

Have you ever experienced being left and abandoned by someone close to you?

It hurts when someone important to us leaves, especially someone we love. Sometimes we don't know why they left, causing us to begin questioning ourselves and wondering what we did to make them leave.

It can be even more painful when we feel they left at a time when we needed them the most. When someone close to us leaves everything in our world changes causing us to fear the unknown and feel uncertain about tomorrow, next week, or next month.

Last month, someone dear to me gave birth to their second child. A week before she gave birth, her husband left. They had a disagreement, but she never expected him to leave her and their children. When he left, she felt depressed, confused and alone. It was like her world stopped, she had to comfort herself by thinking "God is in control of everything."

She thought for sure he would come after she gave birth, but it was the next day, and he still hadn’t came.

During that time, she called on the support of her parents and family and they helped her get through the feelings of abandonment and loneliness. As a woman and mother, she felt she had to be strong because there were people who depended on her, including her newborn. Her family was her strength when she felt she didn’t have her own. When feeling rejected and abandoned it’s important to remember the people who love us and are still here. We may not know why or the future, but we can rest knowing we are not completely alone even if it feels that way. If you don’t have family or friends, find a professional such as a coach or therapist to support you.

Some situations are out of our control and beyond our understanding but remember there is a power greater than you that is called by many names who IS in control. As trials pass through our lives, we will overcome them with God's help. We don’t always see the full plan but sometimes our trials become someone else's strength. In the same way I hope this story is your strength and encouragement. If my dear friend can get through this, you can get through your trials.

Let's choose not to focus on the things that cause us pain in our lives, but let's look at the good. That doesn’t mean to deny your reality or numb your feelings. Allow yourself to feel the hurt and pain of the abandonment while also knowing this too shall pass.

If you find yourself needing extra support, reach out for a free coaching call. I got ya!


Kamesha Tarell

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