When we don’t take the time to practice self-care, we are no good to ourselves or anybody else.
Not enough sleep makes everything harder for me. There were times in my life when I would push past my limits and my body's warning signs until my body began to shut down with migraines, upset stomach, brain fog, irritation, depression, anxiety and illness. My body was telling me it wasn’t getting what it needed to support me at an optimal level. I eventually learned, I have to have at least one day a week to regroup and recharge. For me it’s usually Sunday, my day to rest.
Often when people think about self-care they think about a trip to the spa, mani and pedis or a bubble bath—and you know I love a good bath. There’s nothing wrong with a spa day . But I think self-care is something deeper. I believe it's a practice of doing the internal work and listening to what you, and only you, need.
What you need to refill your cup is personal and might look differently at different times. There will be days when practicing self-care is about getting to bed early. Other times it may be about making a healthy meal or saying no to an invitation so you can have some alone time. It may be doing something you love or spending time with those you love.
It is important to regularly ask yourself, “What do I need to feel more whole in this moment.” Ask yourself this often. Self-care shouldn’t have to come out of an imminent need for relief when everything comes tumbling down. It should be deliberate, it should be scheduled, and become a habit.
You can’t give what you don’t have.
Sent with Love,
Kamesha Tarell
